Category: Let's talk
I started a similar distribution on "MY TELESPACE," and I figured that I'd get it going HERE, as WELL--THIS is going to be an opportunity for ANY/ALL OF US to give OUR OBSERVATION(S) of ONE INDIVIDUAL, who happens to ALSO be a "ZONE"-user, and ANY/ALL OF US are at TOTAL LIBERTY to say ANYTHING ABOUT HER, REGARDLESS. The ONLY THING that I DO ASK is that we ALL stay within the guidelines of "THE ZONE." Other than THAT, FIRE AWAY!
I'm not sure who you are talking about to tell you the truth.
I THINK that she goes by "SEXY AGNES" on here, but I'm talking about HER. Now, we WERE in a SUPPOSED "RELATIONSHIP," but due to the lack of GENUINE, UNINHIBITTED, HEART-TO-HEART-HEALTHY COMMUNICATION, NON-COOPERATION, along with NON-EQUALITY between us, red flags were DEFINITELY flying at FULL-MAST, ever since the VERY BEGINNING. Now, I'll NEVER, EVER FORGET all of the GOOD that she HAS done for me, which she did NOT have to do, which she SHOULD be ALWAYS RECOGNIZED FOR, but JUST AS IT IS with ALL of us: there are POSITIVES, AS WELL AS THERE ARE NEGATIVES, and when one FINALLY DOES ADMIT that HE/SHE'S responsible for his/her OWN behavior, HIM/HERSELF, and NOT their "MOOD SWINGS," THEN, and ONLY THEN, CAN ONE EVER BE SUCCESSFULLY SITUATED into a WELL-MEANING, WHOLESOME FOR-LIFE RELATIONSHIP.
Oh please, please let's not all get into the habit of starting a board about a particular user. We'll have more boards than users by next year. Besides, isn't that what graphiti is for?
Sorry. Let me clarify. I have no problem starting a board about a user who has passed away. That's definitely an exception.
As for your last post about relationships in general, I totally agree with you.
YEAH--a "DISFUNCTIONALSHIP," which is what I was involved in, is the VERY THING to DEFINITELY avoid--now, OURS was caused by the premise of "DO AS I SAY, NOT AS I DO." It was PERFECTLY FINE for AGNES to be with other GUYS, but I, according to this premise, had better not even FANTASIZE about another woman, LET ALONE BE with her--of COURSE, I saw other women, ANYWAY--which I WOULDN'T'VE done, HAD AGNES been loyal to ME--the ONE THING that I NEVER DO, is tell a woman who she should and/or shouldn't be with, because if she REALLY VALUED our relationship, WE would, LIKEWISE, VALUE EACH OTHER, by ONLY BEING WITH EACH OTHER, but if we agreed to have an OPEN RELATIONSHIP, then it's OPEN for BOTH, NOT JUST ONE.
Well let's face it, we have all been in "disfunctionalships" in our lives. It is a shame but I think we just need to try to learn from it. It's rough but that is life ay?
To me, it sounds like getting defensive about you talking to other women when she is apparently allowed to talk to other men is a sign of serious insecurity issues, but that's just me. Insecurity is something a lot of people deal with, and that's fine, but you might want to work on it before getting into a serious relationship.
Agreed. Mind you, it is a difficult thing to get past and I couldn't even tell you where to begin. In the meantime, do you think she would be okay with you posting about her like this?
Well, I've TRIED to discuss the matter with JUST HER, but she was ALWAYS RESENTFUL, and MY guess is that it was because I might've plucked the VERY NERVE of any supposed guilty concience.
Now, if she claimed to me that there's NOTHING, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, going on between her and the guy that she's living with, why would they be sharing a bed, when there's ANOTHER bed in the house? Why would she get mad at HIM for giving ANOTHER WOMAN/OTHER WOMEN the type of attention that he should only give to HER?
TRUE: I DON'T have permission to post about her, but as long as I'm not being MALICIOUS, it's not a problem--if anyone ELSE chooses to be, I have no control over that, of course.
Well, if you have no permission to post about her like this, then why is it that you're doing it anyway? You're just digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole that will be hard to get out of when she sees this board topic.
I'd love to see her side, then it be completely fair. But so far he has stay with in the rules, so.
so this is a, "i'm really starting this board to bash my ex...with in the rules, of course" board? perthetic, if you ask me. i don't know the woman your talking about, but would you like it if she did the same thing to you? yes, we've all been in bad relationships, but most of us move on, and eventually end up with someone who will treat us right, not create boards to talk badly about our ex's. their are, 3 sides to every story, his, hers, and the truth, and so far only 1 side has been seen. my advice to you is, leave the woman alone, and find someone who will care about you, and give you the equolity in a relationship you deserve. this relationship didn't work for whatever reason, so chalk it up to a life experience, learn from it, and put it where it belongs, in the past.
All my x's live in Texas.
Sorry, just had to post that. lol
Lol Michael, that was random, but funny.
AGAIN: since I'm NOT viciously attacking her, which I COULD, but I WON'T, I'm STILL in the clear--if she happens to find this board topic, if she hasn't, already, and chooses to react, proact, or neither, so be it, because it is what it is--I'm glad to have posted this topic, and if there's ANYTHING ELSE that comes to mind that's about her, I'm gonna post it, as well. No, this DEFINITELY DOES NOT MEAN that I can't move on, because in ALL DUE HONESTY, I NEVER STOPPED MOVIN', and neither has SHE; that's all. How would I feel if she were to post anything about ME? I wouldn't feel at ALL, and if I WERE to respond to it, my attitude would be just as nonchalant as it is NOW. In FACT, I hope she DOES post something about me--NOT that it would matter to me if she did or DIDN'T, of course, but it would just give me another thing to be curious about.
BESIDES, VICIOUS ATTACKS accomplish ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, because all THEY proove to be are just ANGRY, NO-LIFE BEHAVIORS that USUALLY would put one at risk for any consequence(s) that could VERY WELL BE WORTH AVOIDING. Just because our "RELATIONSHIP" was REALLY a "DISFUNCTIONALSHIP" never ever means that I have to be disfunctional, because I choose to post this topic. This isn't meant to "GET BACK AT" AGNES, in ANY WAY, SHAPE, OR FORM. This is ONLY to SHOOT THE BREEZE, KILL TIME, WHATEVER.
I SHOULD'VE CONSOLIDATED THIS ALL into ONE MESSAGE, but if ANYONE ELSE should happen to be vicious toward her in THEIR posts, that'll ONLY REFLECT THEM, NOT ME--as I mentioned BEFORE, I don't have any control over anyone else's behavior, ANY MORE than THEY have any over MINE, so in case you happen to see any such posting(s), you'll know that they're OBVIOUSLY not from me.
I don't see the big deal in this board. It takes time to recover from a heart break (which obviously this guy has faced or he wouldn't be posting?). A heart break can not (if it's real) just be gotten over. Some times you need to talk to someone, and if you have no one else than posting/blogging works for some. I've never been one to do such; (I write poetry when I hurt), but every individual has the right to deal with his/her pain the way that works for them; (as long as their not intentionally being cruel to another). He isn't being cruel to Agnes. He's stated his side. He has not even called her names; (which I can't say for others on The Zone). Now, to the original poster. I do think you need to write/talk it out and free yourself of the pain before you can move on. Obviously this girl hurt you, and I'm sorry for that. Unfortunately, double standards are, well, standard these days, and it's rare to find someone who doesn't hold them. :) I've been very lucky, but it took a lot of heartache to find the wonderful man I'm with today. Heartache can come from friends and lovers alike, and I've experienced both kinds. *hug* I don't know if a hug will help you particularly, but it's here for the offering, and if you need to talk feel free to PM me. Good luck in finding that special one for you. I do believe she's out there, and likely she'll show up when you least expect it. :) That's what happened here.
It seems like he is just blowing the smoke off, to coin a phrase, and I see no lasting harm. I just hope the woman talked about does not see this and go on a rampage.
Well I must give her credit for shoing she's more grown up. I expected her to post, but she's mute. Smile.
Or perhaps she has not come on the zone.
WELL, to DEFINITELY STRAIGHTEN OUT the RECORD, I'm CERTAINLY NOT in ANY PAIN, WHATSOEVER, because I NEVER invested ANY of my heart into this disfunctionalship, since I ALREADY KNEW, from the VERY BEGINNING, that it was JUST AS IT WAS--a disfunctionalship, but I stayed with it, JUST TO CURIOUSLY SEE JUST HOW LONG, FAR, etc., or until someone that's REALLY meant to be in my life would come along, this thing would actually GO. The ABSOLUTE, SOLID TRUTH is that NEITHER OF US, at NO time, fell in lve with each other; I'M just writing this, because it just gives me something to post, and have OTHERS reply--that's all.
Yep! And the moon is made of green cheese too. Smile.
WELL, that STILL doesn't change the fact that I'm in NO PAIN, WHATSOEVER--it IS TRUE that I WOULDN'T wanna be in ANOTHER "LOVELESS" situation, of course; it's just that THIS one was one that I was FULLY AWARE of the outcome, which is why NOTHING was able to take me by surprise, and that since we WEREN'T in love with each other, I NEVER ONCE FELT GUILTY for having "CHEATED," if THAT'S what it's STILL called, which was the SMART thing for me to do, ANYWAY, and I'm VERY glad that I did it.
Well good for you for trying to rise abuv the situation. Many people struggle with that...it isn't easy.
If their was no pain, love, loss, then why are you posting, or I should say did you post this?
My thoughts exactly.
Just for the sake of posting--THAT'S why. And as far as "TRYING to RISE above it," I've ALWAYS been above this, ever since DAY ONE. It's like THIS: everyone has their OWN UNIQUE STYLE of handling any given situation, which explains the difference(s) between how one deals with whatever from ANOTHER/OTHERS. ANOTHER thing is that what makes THIS situation unique is that NEITHER OF US, and I HATE to sound like a "skipping CD," were in love with each other, AT ALL, so how could there have been any suffering when it all ended? Your observation is DEFINITELY off-kilter, I must say, and please don't take this as a PERSONAL ATTACK, but I thought that you needed to be aware of it, in case you weren't.
I have a few questions, and this isn’t a criticism of your style but meerly out of curiosity. Anyone feel free to comment.
Firstly, if you were so sure from the beginning that it wasn’t going to work, why did you choose to stay? If you were going to cheat on her then why didn’t you just stay single and sleep around?
Then, since you did choose to stay, why didn’t you put more effort into making it work out better? I’m not saying it would have made all the difference but at least then you could have walked away and said, “I did my best”. Instead you chose to stoop to her level. Why is that?
NOT that I was "STOOPING to her LEVEL," but I, INSTEAD, was allowing HER to be the first to walk away, which is the SMART thing to do, as far as MY end of the deal is concerned, because JUST SUPPOSE if I HAD walked away first, ONLY to FIND OUT that she was TOTALLY IN THE RIGHT, ALL ALONG, and that I, through my OWN stupidity, would've chosen to build my OWN conclusions, as according to what would've SEEMED LIKE to ME, then I would've been the one on the short end, and I CERTAINLY wasn't EVER going to allow THAT to happen.
I must admit, this is all a bit strange. I must say, the whole mind game thing never gets old.
Well when I happen to fall in love with her I'll take your warnings. Probably not seriously, but. Their are always 2 sides to every coin. Smile.
NEVERTHELESS, it's ALWAYS BEST to be the SMART/SMARTER one, as far as THIS goes--not to forget to mention that any of us could STILL make our MISTAKES, but then once we've OWNED UP, PICKED UP, and CONTINUED ON, REGARDLESS of what the OTHER does, THAT'S what makes the necessary difference. To SIMPLIFY that, what I'M saying is that in THIS case, I could've ranted, raved, name-called, so on and so forth, but I would've been the one to suffer the consequence of being miserable, angry, and ANY OTHER THING that would've DEFINITELY questioned MY credibility of this whole matter, but you're RIGHT, OTHERWISE--I'D rather say that there are THREE sides to consider: MINE, HERS, and the ABSOLUTE TRUTH.
Interesting point.
This is why it's ALWAYS IMPORTANT to "CONSIDER the SOURCE." Credibility is VERY NECESSARY to maintain. Although it's VIRTUALLY IMPOSSIBLE to COMPLETELY AVOID your credibility from being QUESTIONED, at any given time/times, that's CERTAINLY NO EXCUSE for ANY of us to DELIBERATELY make it so that it's questioned, knowing FULLY WELL that such could've been EASILY avoided. For EXAMPLE: If you don't want anyone to know whatever you don't want to be known, for fear of any public humiliation, you VERY SIMPLY DON'T POST ANYTHING on a PUBLIC BOARD, then VEHEMENTLY DENY it; RIGHT? Of COURSE! ALSO, wouldn't your credibility be at risk for questioning, should you happen to make any promise(s) that you have YET to satisfy, and the likelyhood of THAT ever happening would be just as sure as the likelyhood that you'll be the VERY NEXT PERSON to be the next US President-elect in 2012? Go figure.
Yup, spot on.
So NATURALLY, the TRUTH NEVER has to be PROOVEN, but is ALWAYS DEMONSTRATED, REGARDLESS of the two sides.
Seriously if I were to start a relationship with Agnus I'd give her or anyonne a fresh start. The reason why is previous lovers have reasons why it didn't work for them, and no matter how right they feel in their reasons why they never say their side truthfully. The second reason is if mistakes are made a person has the ablity to change, and for the next person might give them a totally different view. Perception is a difficult thing. You may have expected something that was never offered, and me I might not expect it at all, so. Even you can start your next relationship with a clean slate and should.
TRUE, everyone IS entitled to a FRESH START, since there's NONE OF US that's PERFECT in ANY WAY, WHATSOEVER. This is why we SHOULDN'T enforce REQUIREMENTS, ESPECIALLY if they're only ONE-SIDED--this is what I've been saying, ALL ALONG. There's just ABSOLUTELY NO WAY that ANY RELATIONSHIP is gonna survive that way. I'm DEFINITELY not a "KNOW-IT-ALL," but I CERTAINLY KNOW THIS; THAT'S for sure!
And we all have our own side to the story.
ALTHOUGH the TRUTH ALWAYS PREVAILS, no matter WHOSE side to the story versus whoever ELSE'S, this is true.
That is why we keep the past where it is and move on.
Of COURSE! I'VE ALREADY done THAT!
then why do you keep reviving this topic?
I'd pay to hear the other side, but. *sigh*
I agree with Chelsea. If you've moved on, why are you still posting? I'd love to hear the other side too, but I won't lose any sleep if I don't.
Defamation is not obsolete. Just because it's being posted anonymously from behind a keyboard does not mean the defamer couldn't be charged. While this post probably wouldn't fall into that category it does illustrate the lack of understanding of that by people who post on the web.
And to answer the above-asked question, I WOULDN'T keep posting about it, if noone else keeps responding--ALWAYS HAVING THE LAST WORD has ALWAYS been my passion, even if I HAVE moved on, OTHERWISE. For example: if ABSOLUTELY NOONE ELSE, BUT NOONE ELSE, posts after THIS VERY EXACT POST from ME, THIS POST, QUITE OBVIOUSLY, would be the FINAL POST of THIS VERY EXACT TOPIC, so it was RATHER TIME-WASTING of YOUR time to even ASK me why I'M the one that keeps this topic going, shouldn't you think?
From all your crazy posts, its not hard to understand why she cheated or left ya or whatever the case it is. Its like you coulld pretty much see the other side without having to even hear about it hehe.
Wow. Wanting the last word no matter what kind of proves you aren't willing to leave it alone on your own.
kind of proves? I'd say it speaks volumes...
OBVIOUSLY, you weren't paying attention--WE "CHEATED" ON EACH OTHER! And as far as ANYTHING "SPEAKING VOLUMES," all YOU'RE doing is "being the pot, calling the kettle black," since YOU'RE just as unwilling to let this topic go, as you claim that I'M not, because whether you wanna admit it or NOT, I NEVER have to go out of MY way to proove ME RIGHT and YOU WRONG, because YOU'RE the one/ones DOING IT FOR ME. Now, the ONLY WAY that you could EVER REVERSE that is if THIS POST from ME would be the VERY LAST POST from ANYONE ON THIS TOPIC.
All right, game on. This is like bidding someone up in a card game and watching them put all their chips plus an I.O.U. on the table.
Will there be more?
SURE, there'll be more, as long as there are replies to my "LAST WORD!"
OH--BY THE WAY: I JUST REALIZED that I made an error in my previous post, ONLY BECAUSE I happen to be at the LIBRARY, and since I was on a timer, I was EXTREMELY IMPULSIVE about making my point, but I trust that you STILL knew what I meant.
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hush, silence, quiescence, peace. I don't have a clue as to whom this poor agnes is, but all I have to say is "run forest run!!!" This dude is bad badder and baddest news.
Don't worry about it. It'll eventually go away when we're finished making a point that he obviously won't let it go, because he must, must have the last word. Normally I wouldn't waste my time with this crap, but it's kind of fun in this case. Oh yes, I'm so very mean. Deal with it.
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Who ever said anything about you being MEAN? You're an IDIOT, of course, but whether or not you're MEAN never matters to ME, because I can be MEANER--PERHAPS MEANEST, and you DEFINITELY DON'T wanna go there with me. And like I said about "THE LAST WORD," YOU'RE the one/ones that this WHOLE THING FALLS BACK ON, because what you HAVE to remember is that I'M the one that STARTED THIS TOPIC, and DAMMIT, I'LL be the one to FINISH it--NOT YOU, or ANYONE ELSE, FOR THIS MATTER. So JUST GET OVER YOURSELVES.
that's actually what's funny: the fact you refuse to let it go. sure it keeps getting brought up to the top, but you're adamant about having the last word, so you're the idiot here...
Yep. I completely agree with Chelsea. If you think we're the idiots, your loss.
Well, you ARE the idiots, because you keep RESPONDING! YOU wanna have JUST AS MUCH of the LAST WORD as I do, but the VERY BIG DIFFERENCE is that I don't have to WANT the LAST WORD--I just HAVE it, and since this is MY board topic, and MINE, ONLY, YOU are COMPLETELY INSIGNIFICANT in this equasion. THAT'S why MY having the LAST WORD in MY BOARD TOPIC, NOT YOURS, makes YOU the idiots, and all YOU'RE doing is making YOURSELVES the BIGGEST IDIOTS, whenever YOU decide to compete with me, which is DEFINITELY the ABSOLUTE WORST MISTAKE that you could EVER make.
hahahahahaha!!
OK.... I am laughing so hard I betcha I'll get fired from my job for being on here.... OMG this is pathetic... and hilarious.... not sure which one wins out!
this is sooo great and remember its you against lots of us we'll keep posting to piss you off cause its another tinny tiny lil satisfaction hahahaha
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question mark?
http://www.Who'sTheBiggestIdiotOfAll.com
is the widdle baby crying now? do you have your bottle, widdle baby?
NOW, who's got the "LAST LAUGH?" To EVER THINK that LITTLE YOU can piss ME off!? HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!
You PURPOSELY KEEP FORGETTING that for as LONG as you "FAITHFULLY" respond to my "LAST WORD," and this is MY board topic, YOU are under MY control, and the ONLY WAY to proove ME wrong, WHICH YOU WON'T, because you CAN'T, is to VERY SIMPLY SHUT UP, ACCEPT YOUR DEFEAT, and let THIS MESSAGE be the VERY LAST MESSAGE of this topic, but the more you UNSUCCESSFULLY attempt to "piss me off," the more I will SUCCESSFULLY "RIP THE FLOOR" RIGHT FROM UNDER YOU, ONCE AGAIN--YOUR CALL.
g'ur'ur'ur.
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Wow....roflmao!
Hold on while I save this link, so I can refer back to it whenever I need a good laugh.
I'm not really sure what to say. I was gone for a while and the post is still active? Why why why?
Ask THEM, Margorp--THEY'RE THE ONES that chose to COMPETE with me, since they don't wanna accept that I AM, and WILL ALWAYS BE, the "KING OF THE LAST WORD!" TRY TRY AS THEY WILL, but they will NEVER WIN. HOW FOOLISH OF THEM to ever think that they WILL (HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!)!
Perhaps this topic isn't meant to be taken seriously? At this point, that's the only logical explanation I can come up with.
No wonder she broke up with him
exactly. it's impossible for him to shut up; he always has to have the last word. sigh; some people never learn...
and i have a feeling that somehow its not gonna happen. MOre of us then their's of you so good luck........Not...
yes indeed.
I could see the conversations now. I mean they'd never get past can you wash the dishes honey? hahahaha
So that miracle grow's not kicking in, eh? It's all good. You're just pissed off because nobody's taking you seriously and this board topic, as well as some of the others, are nothing but a hunk of waste o bandwidth. Must I pass you another 3 ounce bottle so you can have at it? Shut the hell up and grow the hell up.
I think it can be safely said that we've proven our point, whether he acknowledges it or not. So, I say, let's just let the baby have his way, and move on with our lives. Everybody wins that way!
to the original poster, thanks for the laugh.
It's obvious he's not going to be pissed off by what we're doing, since babies don't understand that kind of thing, and he's already made it clear he doesn't have to grow up. Lol!
I bet this post is for anthropological purpases. Researching us and all that. How fun!
OBVIOUSLY, to the ones that are THAT STUPID to conclude that SHE was the one that broke up with ME, instead of FULLY ACKNOWLEDGING that it was US that broke up with EACH OTHER, as well as to those that ALREADY KNOW that YOU JUST CAN'T WIN, it's DEFINITELY BEEN FUN, just fuckin' with you, as I ALWAYS do, whenever I create a CONTROVERSIALLY-CONFLICTIVE board topic; let's just face it: you idiots are FULLY DESERVING of being TOTALLY FUCKED WITH, since I'll ALWAYS get away with it, NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY--and as far as "GROWING UP" goes, I DARE YOU to MAKE ME GROW UP--I GUARANTEE that you'll be JUST AS SUCCESSFUL with THAT, as you have been with making me "SHUT UP (HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!)!
ONE MORE: why is it that you THOROUGHLY INSIST that I'M the one that's being "PISSED OFF?" If you REALLY ask ME, I think that YOU'RE the one/ones that are, INSTEAD, because if you WEREN'T, you wouldn't compete with me--see, I don't EVER have to compete with YOU, because YOU'RE EASILY CONQUERABLE--make ABSOLUTELY NO MISTAKE about THAT!
hahahahaha!!
This is hilarious! BTW, breakups are NEVER mutual... someone has to break up first... so I will continue arguing with you because your comebacks are so pathetic; they don't combat what anyone has said, they're just insults rather than a disagreement with our interpretation of your twisted facts.
SO, according to YOU, there's NEVER ANY SUCH THING as TWO PEOPLE, at the SAME EXACT TIME, arriving at the VERY SAME DICISION, SIMULTANEOUSLY? I know it's USUALLY not worth MY WHILE to do so, but I pity you!
No, there is no such thing as two people coming to a decision at the same time to break up. That's impossible. Now get on with your life and quit wasting more bandwidth, please.
well said, Michael and CM. two people breaking up...couldn't that be along the same lines of an oxymoron? lol.
and trust me you arn't pissing us off at all its very entertaining! and a reject like yourself would never face the fact that he or she has been dumped and no matter what you say I really think she broke up with your pathetic self. So keep posting cause you'll never have the last word hahahahahahaha.
Personally, I don't care whether or not you ever grow up. The world needs a few like you to make the rest of us look better, so keep it right up. I'm really enjoying this.
YOU IDIOTS will NEVER be "BETTER THAN ME," and yes, this IS entertaining, because YOU VERMINE are like rats to poison that's been laid down, except you don't DIE, but you STILL are VICTIMIZED by my CONSTANT "BACKTALK," ESPECIALLY since YOU CHOOSE to be a part of MY topic, and you're HOOKED! YOU CAN'T HELP, BUT RESPOND to me, BECAUSE I GOT IT LIKE THAT; THAT'S why.
Now, as far as YOUR saying that there's NO SUCH THING as TWO PEOPLE, SIMULTANEOUSLY DECIDING to BREAK UP, you're an even BIGGER IDIOT than what I THOUGHT that you were, because if TWO PEOPLE DECIDE, at the VERY SAME TIME, to be INVOLVED WITH EACH OTHER, why WOULDN'T it be VICE VERSA?
I just dare you to keep bashing me and calling me an idiot. I dare you to keep doing it. It won't bother me at all. And two people thinking of breaking up at the same time is very unrealistic.
It is possible, I will admit, but not likely. Usually, someone initiates it, or someone was thinking of it first, but yes....there are a few rare occasions when it does occur to both people at the same time, but someone has to be the first to speak up about it. It just seems to unbelievable that two people would not only think about it at the same time, but say it at the exact same moment? But....we're getting too technical than is necessary for a topic created by a person that clearly says he doesn't have to grow up. No matter how you try, you can't explain algebra to a person who hasn't yet started kindergarten. So....with that, I've said all that needs to be said on this topic. Don't believe me? Well, if it's really that important to you, check the boards in a few days.
JOINT DECISIONS, OF COURSE, take MORE THAN ONE PERSON to make, first of all; SECONDLY, if it WAS that SHE broke up with ME, explain why I'm not angry with her, and ALSO explain why I haven't bashed her, during this ENTIRE TOPIC. If it was that I initiated the break-up with HER, explain why SHE'S not angry with ME, although TRUE, she HASN'T posted to this topic, ONLY BECAUSE her INTERNET service has been down for a while, but she's WELL-AWARE of this topic, EVEN BEFORE I STARTED it, so THERE YOU GO! And YES, it DID happen that we BOTH have decided, AS WELL AS initiated the discussion of, our break-up, of which we're BOTH totally comfortable with, and it's NEVER to say that there'd NEVER be ANY CHANCE, WHATSOEVER, that we'd NEVER get back together at whichever point, but for NOW, we WON'T. The BEST THING of ALL of this, naturally, is that we're NOT ENEMIES, nor will we EVER be, REGARDLESS, so to WHO/WHATEVER OF YOU that THIS applies, simply get over yourselves.
Well, if you weren't angry that you broke up, why did you start this board topic in the first place? Wouldn't it be true that you started this board topic because it bothers you? I'm done with the bashing here, but it just doesn't sound realistic to me that you would start this board topic just because she broke up. It tells me that it bothers you quite a bit.
What YOU claim that TELLS you that it "BOTHERS" ME that "SHE," according to YOU, was the one to break up with ME, is ONLY YOUR "HALLUSINATIVE CONDITION," if you will, acting up, and NO, that WASN'T meant as a bash, but ONLY a REALITY-CHECK. I, JUST FOR THE HECK OF IT, thought that it would be interesting to post this topic, and like I already said, I discussed it WITH AGNES, and she has NO PROBLEM with it, OTHERWISE, I WOULDN'T'VE posted it, and SINCE this WAS a SIMULTANEOUSLY-INITIATED JOINT DECISION to break up, the ONLY ONE that it DOES ACTUALLY BOTHER is YOU, ONLY BECAUSE YOU'RE the one that it doesn't make sense to, THEREFORE, YOU'RE choosing not to accept that that's how it HAPPENED, which you ARE ENTITLED to believe what you WISH, but that YOU'LL be the one with "EGG ON YOUR FACE," so to speak, should such time DOES proove itself, without ME, having to proove anything, of course; what'll you do, THEN? Hmmm?
You see, the fact that she hasn't replied to this board shows that she just probably doesn't want anything to do with you. So its most likely that she did brake up with your lunatic self and like with everything else, you just don't want to face that and try so hard to make it seem like you both broke up at once. Like I said before I personally don't care if you live breath jump, rot in hell or whatever its just entertaining and thats that. Keep it coming cause I'll keep laughing at how much of a pathetic sould you are lol.
well, unless your a cl, you don't actualy get "the last word", as they do, by either removing or closing this board. wich, i'm guessing is as entertaining for them, as it is for the rest of us who are laughing at this whole thing. so keep it up, they, and the rest of us, need something to laugh at.
Two people don't even think about getting together at the same time. One thinks about it, and the other thinks about it, but someone has to make the first move. Now what would be interesting is for you to hook up with one of these lovely ladies here, get maried, and have babies after all this fighting. hahaha
thanks for the information on her, I'll keep this in mind and use it to my advantage. She sounds rather trashy, but..... Yeah, I just thought she was just empty.
this is certainly an interesting question-can 2 people break up with one another at the same time? Or get together?
I've asked my girlfriend this as well, because I saw both sides of this discussion having a point. mygodchosenbride&i4lifefinally has one, but so do the other contributors to this thread.
I think both ways can be correct, though my girlfriend personally took the side that yes, a girl and a guy can break up at the same time.
Let's take a story from her book, of which convinced her to agree with this viewpoint and which I understand.
She was dating a guy by the name of date of Zach. I will refer to her as Laken, as that is her true name-no, she does not go on the Zone, but to avoid re-use of phrases like she or her and to provide more variety and intent to my sentenses, using her real name may be applicable.
So anyway. Laken was dating this guy. He was a sweetheart, she was (is) a sweetheart. But somehow the relationship didn't work out. She felt it, he felt it. They broke up once already, but he couldn't let go of the relationship.
They got back together again, after he told her his feelings.
Stop right there! He was the one who told her his feelings;She didn't have an intent to get back together, but because he was a sweetheart and the relationship broke apart fresh, she accepted his offer and they began dating again (ironically, after 2-3 days of a breakup).
Continuing the story. The relationship sadly, still didn't feel right for neither of them. They kept it up but he was more shy than my girlfriend;Often times, Laken learned his feelings through his mother or friends and not him personally. So when he would get upset he'd go away without explanation, and this was what caused problems since she worried.
They both felt that somehow this missmatch was too great, which I understand. Sometimes people are different-and it is hard to change personalities, this is a fact. I for one have always refused to date a girl who changes her personality because of me. Zach was shy and couldn't open up, Laken was more open towards him and genuinly cared.
One day they both decided to break up. It was about timing, you see. There's a point in the relationship-especially in one where discomfort or sadness ensues-where you both decide to end it. Relationships aren't just about sex and games and kissie cuddlie;There is a deeper bond that goes between the couple, even if you two aren't happy or fight a lot. Admit it peeps-It's almost as though the relationship itself is "magical".
But they broke up at the same time. I know a lot of you will say, "but one had to say it first". But while I understand this logic, a relationship is about emotions that flow through between the couple's hearts. Take an experiment. When you are with your boyfriend or girlfriend, sigh. You will notice that he/she will either sigh with you or exactly after you. Don't tell your significant other that you sighed because of an experiment;Have a romantic moment, forget that you want to see if this is true during the moment and sigh. The problem with most experiments is that the person does them out of pure experiment's sake, which invalidates them because it makes the experiment artificial.
But I'm diverging again. Ok. about break-ups. I get the logic of who said it first. But prior to any break up that you both feel is needed, both of you will express the same signs together. Sighing. Perhaps a last romantic moment in case of understanding breakups, or a moment of turning away from one another in case of breakups where the relationship was hurtful. Regardless of the case, a relationship is about being on the same page all the time and I think mygodchosenbride&i4lifefinally has a point in that one which I see the perspective of.
Of course, I am not here to change any of your views on the matter, because what all of you are arguing for is true too! In some break-ups, especially in those where one person wants to break up less than the other, perhaps they really aren't breaking up together. So both scenarios are possible and can hold true and valid.
All the best,
Tomi
You can never have a mutual break up as one has to end it. Also to the author of this topic:
Why do you insult us when we are trying to have a lively talk about things? Is that right?
Well, I'm ONLY "INSULTING" THOSE that've ALLOWED THEMSELVES to be, which NOT EVERYONE HAS, but to the IDIOT POSTER of MESSAGE 105, who OBVIOUSLY has a NEUROLOGICAL FUCK-UP for a MEMORY, I DID SAY, EARLIER ON in THIS THREAD, that the ONLY REASON WHY that she's NOT posting IS BECAUSE HER INTERNET SERVICE is down, and she DOESN'T HAVE ANY OTHER ACCESS, such as a near-by LIBRARY that she could go to, and BESIDES, we're ALWAYS ON THE PHONE with each other, and SHE'S HEARD ABOUT, THROUGH ME, of course, THIS THREAD, and SHE, TOO, AND I, for that matter, are CONSTANTLY ROLLING ON THE FLOOR, LAUGHING AT you LOW-LIFE SCUM that claim that I'M supposed to be the "ANGRY VICTIM." And ONCE AGAIN, JOURNALIST, you're the ONLY ONE that shows "PERFECT NORMALCY," if you wil, and YOU, TOO, MARGORP, which is DAMN MUCH MORE than I'll EVER say for the rest of THOSE that are TOTALLY BENEATH MY DIGNITY to EVER REGARD as ANY WORTH.
My whole point is that it's obvious to me that it's bothering you that you all broke up because you're posting a board topic about it. I personally don't need to be in your business as far as that goes because it's not my life. Surely you couldn't have posted this board topic without intentions. Even though you say that it doesn't bother you one bit, I have a feeling that it does bother you, simply because your defense tells me so. I'm not a god or anything like that, but I can tell when people are bothered by something like this because of the way they defend their case.
ILLUMINATION, YOU oughta just SIMPLY change your username to "DILLUSIONAL." It's OBVIOUSLY POINTLESS to argue with you, as on the VERY CONTRARY, that I would NEVER have to "DEFEND MY CASE," as YOU would incoherently babble, because you're CERTAINLY NOT WORTH the headache--if you're THAT STOOPED to believe that our break-up bothers me, you may as well be just as bent to believe that "THE ZONE" doesn't even exist, and that your INTERNET connection is ONLY a TRUE FIGMENT of your VERY WARPED IMAGINATION, while you're at it. When interacting with such of YOUR sort, I was taught to "ALWAYS CONSIDER THE SOURCE." YOU, as the VERY SOURCE that I DO consider, are JUST AS RELIABLE of a source as HITLER would've been regarded as a "WORLD HERO."
Thanks. I appreciate that. I'm just laughing at your bashing comments.
I have to admit, that Hitler comment was pretty funny.
Stevo, it was funny, indeed.
WELL, whether it was funny or NOT, the WHOLE POINT, DILLUSIONAL, which is what I'm gonna call you from now ON, is that the VERY FACT that it DOESN'T bother me, CERTAINLY BOTHERS YOU, because if it DIDN'T, YOU wouldn't come up with such ridiculous reasons of why it SUPPOSEDLY bothers ME, and the VERY FACT that YOU'RE the one that's in TOTAL DENIAL of MY not having been bothered, AT ALL, that's DEFINITELY BOTHERING YOU, is what makes this ENTIRE THREAD entertaining, since YOU'RE the one that's "TOO WEAK," if you will, to let ME have "THE LAST WORD," and you KNOW that's the ABSOLUTE TRUTH, because ONCE AGAIN, you'll proove me EVERY BIT OF RIGHT--watch what I tell you.
Are you the ruler of this world? Is that why you want the last word?
I think it is just to see how we react and if we take it seriously or not. I have learned to calmly chuckle at the whole business of it.
Why should I have to be the "RULER OF THIS WORLD," in order to "HAVE THE LAST WORD" on a board topic that I didn't have to be the "RULER OF THIS WORLD," in order for me to have had the FIRST? EVEN YOU, YOURSELF, would HAVE to admit that THAT was a VERY RIDICULOUS QUESTION that you asked me, DILLUSIONAL--you REALLY GOT IT BAD, BRO!
A ridiculous question? Surely not. A ruler usually would like to have the last word on everything, wich is why I asked that question. And margarp, I'm pretty much amusing myself by asking those questions. I'm not really taking this seriously, nor am I taking the whole board topic seriously. So, in short, if I was dillusional, I would obviously be hallucinating, which I'm not.
For what it's worth, there is a way to make it so that nobody can post to a topic again. It involves opening a link and then not closing it properly, but I forget how to do it. In saying that though I don't think this guy would wanna do that even if he could because as stubbornly determined as he may be to have the last word, he seems to enjoy the back-and-forth. From his perspective, I can see why - it must be highly entertaining to create a topic and gage this much reaction from it.
Defamation would actually have to be proven though....
Well, Dillusional, old buddy, old pal, it DOES make sense for you to defend yourself, because QUITE OBVIOUSLY, people who ARE dillusional DO tend to do that--it's DEFINITELY NOT LIKELY that one would admit their condition, so why should I expect YOU to behave any differently?
Well, you're defending yourself as well, aren't you? So should I then call you dillusional?
Pot, this is kettle.... kettle, this is pot. Whoever is right doesn't matter anymore, as this is too hilarious for words!
I wouldn't be patronizingly accomodating you if I WAS defending myself, as YOU claim--unlike YOURSELF, I NEVER have to proove MYSELF as being "RIGHT," when YOU already do that FOR me, like I told you, early on in this thread. DILLUSIONAL, you DEFINITELY ARE, but EVEN if I NEVER called you such, such would manifest itself as SELF-EVIDENT, ANYWAY.
And on and on we go.
YUP! THAT'S ABOUT THE SIZE OF IT!
All I have to say is lmao... just rofl..